Yesterday, when the minister said that time is a precious commodity and that that was the case--even for him, I thought, 'wow, sahms can actually relate to some ministers then!' Because even for me, when he said that, I always assume that yeah, they have appointments but on a whole, they have a lot of time on their hands. Many non-sahms (especially singles), cannot relate to the schedule that particularly mothers of two kids (or more) have. Some of my single friends think I have all this time, just because I am not currently "working" a job-job. That is so far from the case. Literally, as soon as I wake up, my time is barely my own: I am "serving" from the time I get up, til the time my girls go to bed. I cuddle with them once they wake up, change their diapers, feed them, bathe them, dress them, etc; If we go out, I am either taking them to play/on a playdate or run errands for the house (like the errands I did not get to today, but hope to tomorrow: 99Cent store to get some items for packaging, drop off clothes to salvation army, go to Trader Joe's because my husband requested a specific olive oil and a specific kind of tea, go to Whole Foods to get the baby's diapers & some vitamins for me & that granola my husband likes to snack on at work, go to the post office, etc;)...I tried to put my youngest daughter down for nap...but I have not been consistent with her sleep schedule--so it took me over an hour to put her down. And with my oldest, it took me several hours of trying to get her to take a nap in her room; she does a poop in her diaper & then I have to change her again. She plays & sings & does everything but sleep. So today, she did not take a nap & I brought her out of her room around 2Pish to eat lunch. I spent from 12P-2P trying to get her to nap & in the interim, I moped the whole floor again, because there was all this sticky ovaltine on the floor & dirt & I had just mopped on the day before yesterday. Then the baby woke up after 3P, fed her, changed them both...by the time we left the house, it was 4:30P. I just went to the UPS store to mail some things for my father n law & the baby's birthday invitations I had to color copy to make more copies...by then, it was time to pick up Daddy from work, come home, warm up the food & have dinner together & bathe them, clothe them, pray with them and help them go to sleep. I took a shower around 8:15P & got dressed, washed the rest of the dishes, put the dirty clothes away & came to sit down here at 9P. My goal is to start going to bed by 9:30P. So how much time did I get for myself? Anyway, when the minister said he doesn't have a lot of time, I responded in my head with a little state of shock. I just assume that they have a lot of time & I wonder why I don't "see" them being more evangelistic with all their free time. Boy, what a wake up call. Because it suddenly dawned on me that their schedules are just as busy as mine--serving others--and also, how about my level of evangelism and serving others? Other than my own family? He mentioned making that a priority in my schedule & it is true, you can "always" make time for what is important to you. Though I have described what I do in a day as a sahm, that is not the full description & no matter what I write, unless you are a sahm or have recently been a sahm or a mom with more than two kids, you may not be able to relate or sympathize with what I go through on any given day. Some dads who see what their wives do as mothers--whether a sahm or "working" mom (wm), those dads can relate. That is what I love about some of my friend's husbands & my husband too--is that they KNOW! Can I get some empathy here? No sweat about what I do (though I often am working so hard, I do sweat). Just it is agitating when you sense that you are unappreciated and judged inaccurately. Huh. But now I see Mr. Minister. I can only imagine what you do and I just hope that you are finding time to do whatever you need to do to start your day off on the right(eous) foot. Cause with the busyness of life, it is amazing how our priorities get scattered. That is my goal, to be disciplined & through that, I will see more power, love & glory to God in the way I live.
Good night
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